There are moments in meditation when clarity washes over us, bringing warmth and understanding in ways we never expected. During a recent meditation, I focused on loving-kindness, not just for others, but for myself—past, present, and future.

As I sat in stillness, I envisioned the love I give freely to others, particularly to my partner, Jacob. His unwavering support, encouragement, and kindness have deeply shaped my life, and I realized that this love is something I, too, deserve to receive. The warmth in my heart was undeniable, a feeling of being held and supported in a way that made self-compassion feel more accessible.

In my mind, I found myself in a familiar space—a room filled with chalkboards, a place of reflection and possibility. Across from me sat my future self—a version of me that I’ve often pictured—happy, confident, joyful, passionate, and encouraging. I extended to her the same loving-kindness I hope to receive, the same warmth I offer to my younger self, the girl who once sat crying in her closet, feeling lost and overwhelmed. I held space for her, just as I hope my future self is holding space for me now.

Through this meditation, I saw something incredible: my future self embodies the love and encouragement Jacob has given me. His influence has helped shape the person I am becoming, and in that moment, I was overwhelmed with gratitude for this incredible human I share my life with.

But even more importantly, I realized that receiving kindness—especially from ourselves—is just as important as giving it. So often, we extend love to others while struggling to accept it for ourselves. This meditation helped bridge that gap, showing me that by nurturing my past and future selves, I can fully embrace kindness in the present.

If you’re looking for a meditation to help cultivate self-compassion and loving-kindness, I highly recommend trying these:

• Loving-Kindness Meditation
• Meditation for Growth
• Self-Compassion Meditation

These meditations have truly helped me grow. Open your heart, allow yourself to receive, and see how it transforms your relationship with yourself.